I have a few juicy goods on ebay. Check ‘em out! And as soon as a check shows up from a client, all my ebays shut down and I go into deep work mode again. So if you want something for Christmas, please order it now. I will also be shutting down my bookstore.
Spent some years jettisoning toxic, dramatic people. In a couple of cases, though I’d only met them a few times, they never seemed to miss a chance to send an email with a link to some terrible news, a flare up in fandom, or a dispute among pros. Not even anything they were necessarily involved in, just LOOK AT THIS.
Even though I asked some of them to please stop it with the phone calls or emails (I found letters in my outbox which show I spent years asking some people, over and over,) it didn’t seem to matter. Every encounter was an energy and attention-draining experience. A couple of these people continually raised the subject of old, bad times. They’d go on internet searches for info about people I didn’t like, or publishing clients who’d done me a bad turn so they could dish on their latest challenges or failures, or to mock their work.
Their enemies had to be my enemies. In a couple of cases, friends demanded I quit jobs if an editor didn’t hire them, too.
It didn’t seem to matter how many times I asked them to back off, they just wouldn’t back off.
I finally stopped asking myself why I put up with it, or what I was doing to attract this behavior, and simply put a stop to it.
“NO. NO MORE. I’M DONE. Respect this decision. If you don’t WE’RE done.”
I finally jettisoned the last of these people (an acquaintance who spent many years dirt digging and bringing up old bad news at every opportunity,) well over a year ago.
What a difference a year makes.
A friend and I who’d both worked at a really bad publishing company back in the day realized we’d not thought of or mentioned the client in something like a year. A third party contacted me to tell me something bad had happened to the client, and I said I did not want to hear more, would not look at the photo, and had no further interest.
And it felt really great.
Everyone knows about Fair Weather Friends, the people who dump you when you’re not the life of the party.
But Foul Weather Friends can do far more damage. They don’t want you to be happy, to move on, to be successful. Their attachment to you is based on misery bonding: shared bad experience. Once you no longer share that bad experience, you have nothing in common. And they will not be happy to see you happy.
A Fair Weather Friend will simply move on with their life without you, but a Foul Weather Friend will sabotage you to keep you on equal footing with them. They’re attached to their misery, and they think you should be, too.
I’m happy to say most of my friends have been wonderful people. But the few Foul Weather Friends I’ve had over the years have been as challenging to deal with – if not worse – than people who were openly antagonistic.
I’m very happy I did what I had to do to clean up my life. My anxiety levels have plummeted, my work output increased. I no longer dread opening my email. I’m sure my medication has a lot to do with this and my migraine control, but I also think enforcing boundaries has created a positive loop of behaviors and results.
I don’t believe everyone who does toxic things is an evil person, but I do think people do things out of insecurity or envy to people they know that they wouldn’t think of doing to an enemy. They feel justified doing bad things to punish someone in their social or professional circle.
“You owe me.”
“Why aren’t you validating me?”
“Who do you think you are?”
“Why aren’t you paying attention to me?”
“Why do you get all the stuff? Why not me?”
Unpleasant outcomes are meted out accordingly.
Don’t let anyone let you think the happiness of others is a sin against them.
Other people get to pick their friends, and so do you.
I still do almost all of my drawing entirely with pencil and paper and this 1991 book on perspective grids is, to me, easier to use and faster than working out perspective by hand (duh) or using Photoshop to print out a grid for you.
I just pick out the grid I want, tear it out from it’s perforated home, move it around on my lightbox, and I can either start drawing right there, or take some time to trace out the grid so I can carry my art with me and not lose my orthogonal lines. This saves me a good hour or more per page, especially on those pesky shots where you carefully worked out your perspective and either lost your VP, or didn’t get your cone of vision correct in the first place. I’m embarrassed to admit how often that happens to me. Like…on every page.
With this book of grids, I rarely have to redo a shot, and if I do, it’s a 15 minute fix instead of 2 hours. A new copy of this thing will set you back as much as $200 (I’ve seen it as low as about $40 and as high as $350,) but it’s worth every penny. I thought Photoshop would be super groovy since I can just make a grid and move it around, but it takes longer to set up the shot, move it around, and to print out the grid than to flip through this book for five minutes.
There are about 200 pages of grids in here, you will not need more than that for most of your work, I’m sure. Some enterprising person might want to publish an updated version of this with extreme perspective grids for cartoonists. One of my peeps said he spent three entire days working out a set of grids and then enlarging copies on a photocopy machine to do what this book does for the cost of a day’s work.
Highly recommended. I put this on my private page a few days ago, and several pros ordered one immediately.
This would make a great gift for your favorite artist this Christmas.
I don’t like this book as well, but it’s a lot cheaper. It comes with a an AutoCad disc.
And these sketchbooks, which come with a wide variety of perspective grids, are very handy.
DC/Vertigo is doing a new, deluxe edition of ORBITER and OCEAN, two graphic novels by Warren Ellis. I did the art for ORBITER. It’s had a few printings, but been out of print for about two years. This new edition will include some of my previously unpublished sketches including this cover prelim. Of course, most of the doodles are not half so elaborate as this, and I don’t think I kept copies of all my prelims. Who knew there’d be all these Deluxes and Absolutes and all that stuff 15 years later? Well, I didn’t.
Gorgeous! I am going to try to put up a section on the main page for fan art and fan photos again, and I’ll let you know when I do.