RT Sastrowardoyo just directed me to this story at the New York Times on “hate-reading”. You know, that person who swears you’re the anti-Christ, but they never miss a blog update, or a post on twitter. Your Facebook page is their hangout: they’re dying to see you make a misstep, they rage when you have a good day, they’re sure you’re writing about them ALL THE TIME THEY CAN SEE IT IN THAT POST when you’re really writing about your high school buddy’s third cousin.
And whatever you do is a sure sign of your evil, like the way you eat crackers:
Of course they’d never admit to it, even though you long ago flagged their unique IP showing the many hours they spend looking on your blog for stuff about them that isn’t there. Or, you know, sending their friends to try to sign up on your private FB page. Slick!
OK, so my hate reading is searching out very bad book covers to laugh at them. Which is fun and harmless. At least I think it is.
Because if I don’t like someone, I know it’s unhealthy to pay attention to them. So I block them on social media, and I block their websites with an app. Problem solved!
But apparently, lots of folks just can’t help themselves. They have to cyber-stalk the people they can’t stand.
Here’s a screen shot of the activity of one of a man who spent years cyber-stalking the blog. I blocked him repeatedly, though he came back day after day, year after year. An old business acquaintance who engaged in some dirty dealings, he was terrified I’d out him one day: I never did. I didn’t want revenge, I just wanted him gone. I’m not even angry. I don’t care about this dude, though this behavior alarmed me a bit, so I kept a record until I was sure he wouldn’t end up going ballistic in a mall.
He spent the next decade going over my blog and that of another ex-friend who’d gotten ripped off by him. What’s funny is that there’s no mention of his name on either of our blogs. And we don’t really have anything to say about him now except, “Whew! Glad he’s gone!”
Dude. Get a hobby.
7 billion people on the planet. Ignore the ones you don’t like and go spend time with the ones you do.
Have a read about “hate-reading”.